Blogging--Get Real

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, and it has actually come up in several conversations recently too...so I just need to think my thoughts out loud (sort of) . I started out blogging about a year ago because it seemed like a fun way to share our family moments with people. The funny, random things that happen in our lives, and to share a few pictures along the way. I think that is why most people blog. I think. Some people think blogging is a waste of time, or that they're being "bad" by blogging or spending time on the computer. If you are neglecting your child--yeah, you're probably right. You're a bad person (kidding)...but for some, blogging is a great way to reflect on all your blessings and realize that even if you didn't get much done that day--you still have something to show for it, or at least an entertaining moment to share.

Does anyone else ever feel like after perusing blogs for a while that you don't "measure up"? I sometimes check out all the blogs on my google reader and then feel like I suck. I'm serious! "So and so" just got into a newer, bigger, better home, and then the "X" family just bought a Hummer, and then the "XYZ" family just graduated from Medical School and are raking in the money and have beautiful children and don't have struggles...or so it seems.

While I know and fully agree that it would be terribly awkward to read blogs full of trials and wo--it seems to me like it would help humanize people in my eyes if they didn't always insist on making every aspect of their lives look flawless. Of course I don't want to read peoples' blogs that depress me, or have that "debby downer" attitude, OR that share private, sensitive information but at the same time--let's be real people. It's like getting a Christmas letter every other day that says "Things are perfect here. Couldn't be better--you?" Guess what? I'm sitting in here in my pajamas as I type. I don't have any makeup on, and I've been changing diapers, cleaning the kitchen and doing laundry all afternoon. My life really isn't all that glamorous. Most days. ;)

What is my point? Just this: I like real people. I love reading blogs that talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, the disappointments, the successes and the hilariousness of life. And hey--you should be glad I'm not spilling all our tragedies...the blog would be much longer, and much more depressing...so while I'll leave the private stuff where it belongs (in the walls of our own home), I will share this: Life would be so much harder if I didn't have Danny for eternity, and Cole to make me laugh every day. So--with Thanksgiving upon us, I think I'll focus on all the things I do have, and not on the things I don't.

*If after reading this you're wondering if I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning...I really didn't--I'm actually in quite a good mood. Just felt like blogging--rae style. * In FACT, I will even post a picture...



November 2003
Washington D.C.
Michelle, myself, Val and Natalie
good times...

Comments

val said…
Here here. I tot get depressed sometimes reading and browsing other blogs but most of the time it's fun. I like real people too.
Kristen said…
You're right on with this one. The problem is that the fun stuff is just, well, more fun to blog. I will try to remember to blog about the not-so-good stuff too, just for you Rae! Like how a few days ago Shayn was giving our dog, Endora, a haircut & he cut her leg. Which got infected. So yesterday he takes her to the vet and comes home with antibiotics & a bill for $92. Add that to his ER charge of $75, Alpine's co-pay of $25 & Alpine's flu shot for $20, and dang, I COULD have bought some new clothes. Stupid medical necessities.
RaeLynn said…
Kristen--WOW! I'm so sorry to hear that. But now I know you aren't perfect. phew! :)
Kristen said…
Oh good! I'm glad we cleared that up. :)
katieo said…
YO! Raelynn! I hope you don't mind I found you through Stephanie. Love your blog. Your little Cole is adorable!

This is why I LOVE blogging - catching up with people that you've wondered about over the years. :)

(btw- This is Katie, as in used to be Katie Snow, Lanette's friend...from BYU...)
love that post...real, from the heart writing. so refreshing.

p.s. where is that one link you used to have "AMAZING" with all the crazy cool photography? put it back on your blog, if you please.
Erin said…
Its funny you should say that because I have been on some blogs lately where I literally thought "Wow. Glad YOUR life is so perfect!" I'll try to do better, Rae! ;)
Hahahaha - YOU never have to worry about measuring up - blog, life or otherwise. You are the funniest, sweetest, realest (is that even a word?) person and your little Cole is perfect. I haven't met your man, but he must be great to have you two. Hoping to see you closer and more often ;)
Kathy said…
CHEERS on this post. very well said, rae :)
Ali said…
Hey Rae- I've been enjoying your blog for months now-thanks val- you are so hilarious and so much fun. you have nothing to feel sad about. but i agree- surfing blogs can be a dangerous thing. most of us only posts the pics of our fam looking good- not the reality of dumpy pjs and bags under our eyes. i'll think about posting one of those...take care...ali
janet said…
Of course, we all understand.... I just think we need to stop comparing ourselves to each other. Blogging can be kind of high schoolish, if we let it.
Francine said…
Thanks, Rae, I needed that post- for several reasons. I was feeling really bad the other day after browsing blogs and thought I was being so stupid. Well, I was being stupid for comparing myself to others, but it was really good to hear that I'm not the only one who has ever felt like that. You know I was feeling bad about not being a very good blogger. I'm still learning and I don't always keep my blog up to date. But you, RaeLynn, are an awesome blogger. So my compliments to you. I'll try to keep my blog "real", but forgive me if sometimes I only find time to post pictures of the fun things. Happy Thanksgiving.